The One About Feeling Awkward When Trying to Be Sexy

Dear Dace Diva,

Do you have any advice for feeling comfortable dancing in a way that’s a bit… sexy? I’m a beginning competitor and my instructor keeps telling me to be sexier, but whenever I try, I just feel silly and awkward. Thanks for your help.

—–S & A

Dear S & A,

Competitive ballroom dancing demands us to display parts of our personalities that we rarely reveal publicly or even acknowledge to ourselves. Often times, particularly for folks who tend to be

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Find Your Confidence on the Dance Floor in 2022

The ballroom dance industry has suffered tremendously at the hand of COVID 19. The virus, as well as efforts to thwart it, have impacted studio owners and students alike. Whether social, competitive, professional or amateur dancers, many of us are struggling to regain confidence on the dance floor as we continue to navigate the pandemic amidst a return to normalcy – attending parties, performing and competing. That is why I encourage you to kick off 2022 by joining the free 5-day email challenge, Find Your Confidence on the Dance Floor, a collaborative initiative from The Girl with the Tree Tattoo and the folks at Dance Dress Couture. Here are the details:

  • For five days beginning on Monday January 10, you’ll receive a daily email containing a thought and prompt designed to help you build your confidence as a dancer.
  • Reply to each email prompt with a comment or question. If you prefer to keep your thoughts private, but still want to be part of the Find Your Confidence on the Dance Floor community,

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The One About Group Classes

Dear Dance Diva,

I’m a forty-something single man who started taking ballroom dance lessons about six months ago. I’ve always enjoyed music and dancing, but never had any formal training so I thought I would give it a try. I take one private lesson and had been attending several group classes a week until recently. Most of the folks in the group classes are very nice, but there is a lady who is rude and makes me uncomfortable so I stopped going.

In group classes, the instructors teach

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Nobody’s Perfect

The Doc and I haven’t been to the studio in nearly two weeks. Other than post hip surgeries, this is the longest we’ve gone without dancing since we started competing back in 2015. We’ve been puppy sitting for my son’s puppy, Lina, which has consumed most of our time.

You’re probably thinking lots of folks have puppies and they manage to find time to get in a lesson or two a week and a little practice time…what gives?  Well, THIS puppy is a HANDFUL.

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The One About Competing and Hurt Feelings

Dear Dance Diva,

Part of what I enjoy about competing is the fellowship with other dancers who have become my friends. I always make a point to go to the ballroom to watch them dance, to encourage and to cheer for them. The problem is, my studio-mates don’t do the same thing for me and it really hurts my feelings. A bunch of us – students and instructors -recently attended a ballroom dance competition in Virginia where I danced my personal best, but no one from my studio was there

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